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Nicki Minaj’s Teenage Abortion and Her Sexually Charged Music Videos: What’s the Connection?

Wednesday, December 31st, 2014

Nicki Minaj 2 Nicki Minaj shares in Rolling Stone Magazine that she had an abortion as a teenager:

Minaj’s first love was an older guy from Queens she dated while attending the prestigious Manhattan performing-arts high school LaGuardia. When she discovered she was pregnant, “I thought I was going to die,” she admits. “I was a teenager. It was the hardest thing I’d ever gone through.” She ended up having an abortion, a decision she says has “haunted me all my life,”…

Minaj goes on to justify her decision:

It’d be contradictory if I said I wasn’t pro-choice. I wasn’t ready. I didn’t have anything to offer a child.”

Rolling Stone and Plannned Parenthood would like you to conclude… “good for you Nicki…that was brave and honest…and you still defended a woman’s right to choose!”

But there is so much more going on here.

Why the public confession? Why the need to share this secret? Why a step back away from her usual highly sexually charged lyrics and videos to share this intimate pain with the public?

Her music videos, such as  Anaconda in addition to being morally offensive actually offer some important clues. Sometimes grief and pain from abortion can be buried beneath some highly charged sexual acting out. What’s the connection?

Keep in mind that symptoms can at times call attention to the wound or illness offering clues to help diagnose the condition. Consider the abortion decision of Nicki Manaj. Her first love was with an older man from Queens. Perhaps this man for a time offered the love and affection that may have been missing in her relationship with her father. She loved this older man and they were sexually intimate. She shared her body and soul with him. How did he respond to the pregnancy? She does not tell us. But we know from experience that a father’s response is often critical in whether the baby survives.

Is it any surprise then that her videos often prominently display her body in a highly sexualized context? This can be understood as vehicle for Minaj to call attention to the fact that her wound occurred in the turbulent waters of sexual intimacy. When she was pregnant, her body was naturally gearing up to nurture and protect her unborn child. It was surely a shock to her body and reproductive system when the abortion doctor forced open her cervix and expelled her unborn child. Her breasts never completed their development to fulfill their task of offering sustenance and life to her unborn child after birth.

We know that the music and entertainment industry has their own agenda in advancing the pornification of all media, especially music videos that are so influential with youth.  But we fail to recognize how in the aftermath of abortion the Shockwaves from that event can contribute to the exploitation of women and their participation in actions that degrade and exploit them.

The repressed grief, anger and pain from the abortion,  love and sexual intimacy that ends in death and the rejection of her pregnancy and child…all serve to feed her pornographic videos.  They find expression in exploitive projections of her body that our culture and Minaj would like you to think are acts of female empowerment:

“With a video like ‘Anaconda,’ I’m a grown-ass f*#!*! woman!” she says. “I stand for girls wanting to be sexy and dance, but also having a strong sense of themselves. If you got a big ol’ butt? Shake it! Who cares?

What initially draws your attention in this photograph?

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Look at the sadness on her face in the Rolling Stone cover. Manaj said she had an abortion because she had nothing to offer a child.  But note in the photo above that she provocatively displays her ample breasts (something you will find in many of her images.) The same breasts that never had an opportunity to nurture her unborn child…the child that continues to haunt her.

If Nicki Manaj had resisted the temptation to abort, she would have learned that she had much to offer her baby…a beautiful body, heart and soul would have loved and embraced the child. As most mothers say years later after resisting the pressure to abort… “I can’t imagine life without her/him.” If she had given the child life, while she would have surely faced challenges…she would never have regretted the decision to have the baby.

Because Nicki Manaj suffered a traumatic loss she naturally at times will use her artistic gifts to express her pain and call attention to this loss. If she attended an abortion recovery program, she would in time come to understand the connection between her hyper-sexualized videos and rap with that abortion wound. She would understand that her recent public sharing about her abortion was a cry for help. Manaj would discover that with God’s mercy, her abortion need no longer haunt her, because she will develop a spiritual relationship with her child as part of the healing journey. The grief and reconciliation of this loss can open the door for ongoing healing and conversion in her life.

Her creative gifts would no longer be a vehicle to exploit her sexuality and degrade her beauty as a woman.

Let’s not forget the father of this child. He no doubt will see the Rolling Stone interview leading him to reflect on this event from his past. Men also suffer and act out their pain in destructive ways after abortion. Let’s pray that he and Nicki both find reconciliation and healing in the New Year.

by Janet Morana and Kevin Burke, LSW

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Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion

Tuesday, December 30th, 2014

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WASHINGTON, D.C. — The year 2014 saw the first “abortion rom-com” in theaters, heard the head of Planned Parenthood express the goal of making pro-life political candidates “unacceptable,” and endured a relentless assault by an anti-life movement that seeks to recast abortion as a social good.

 

Abortion is not a social good, and in 2015, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign will demonstrate that through a new project called Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion. The aim of Shockwaves is to reach out to those impacted by the loss of a child through abortion: Parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, abortion clinic workers and even the abortionists themselves.

 

The project will be announced at a press conference Thursday, Jan. 8 at 1 p.m. in the Murrow Room at the National Press Club, 529 14th St. NW. The official launch for Shockwaves will be at the annual Silent No More gathering in front of the U.S. Supreme Court building during the March for Life on Jan. 22.

 

The Supreme Court decision to legalize abortion was like a series of powerful nuclear devices detonated in January 1973 in Washington, D.C. The damage done by an explosion is not only in the initial impact, but in the invisible shockwaves that ripple out from the epicenter. We often fail to see the radioactive fallout from 55 million abortions but the new initiative aims to make Americans aware of the powerful and destructive shockwaves that have wounded our nation in ways that we are only beginning to fully understand. 

 

 

“Each individual abortion procedure is an explosive event in the lives of the mother and father and those closely connected to that decision,” said Father Frank Pavone, National Director of Priests for Life and Pastoral Director for Silent No More. “The shockwaves not only deeply touch the mother and father but all those who are part of abortion decisions and procedures.  They extend out into the lives that they will touch as their unresolved  grief and loss impact their future relationships, their marriage and family lives. This can and does reach deeply into our society — our schools, our health care and legal systems, our economy and our communities.”

 

Every month throughout 2015, Shockwaves will reach out to a group that has been directly impacted by abortion loss, with helpful information, resources, and referrals to abortion-recovery programs.

 

January will focus on “Healing through the Church.”  February will recognize Black History Month to offer “Healing the Black Family.” March will put the focus on grandparents, while April will take a look at how the shockwaves have impacted the siblings. Mother’s Day in May and Father’s Day in June provide opportunities to focus on those at the epicenter, the parents who lose children to abortion.

 

“The new aim of the pro-choice movement is to convince women and men that abortion is the very best thing they can do for themselves and their future,” said Georgette Forney, President of Anglicans for Life and co-founder of Silent No More. “But I can tell you from experience that the abortion I had as a teenager was not the best thing I could have done for myself. It was the worst, and it impacted my parents, my future husband and our daughter.”

Janet Morana, Executive Director of Priests for Life and co-founder of Silent No More, was unaware for years that she had lost a grandchild to abortion.

 

“When I look at my two precious grandchildren now, I often think of their cousin who’s missing,” she said. “It’s heartbreaking to think of what my family lost, and what my daughter went through. The shockwaves of that abortion have reverberated throughout my family, and there are families like mine all over our wounded nation.”

 

The theme for July will be “Healing the Survivors and Friends,” followed by “Healing the Abortion Providers” in August. Family will be the theme for September, with a focus on Hispanic families in October.

 

“Healing Pro-Lifers” will be the theme for November.

 

“Those who stand outside abortion clinics, on the front lines of this battle, also need healing,” said Kevin Burke, LSW, co-founder of Rachel’s Vineyard and head of Silent No More’s Fatherhood Forever initiative. “So do those who work in pregnancy resource centers, and others who counsel abortion-vulnerable women. Every woman who chooses abortion represents a deep and personal loss to these people who are so committed to life. They feel the shockwaves most acutely.”

 

December will be devoted to seeking healing through Jesus Christ.

 

“When a spiritual and emotional healing program safely opens the abortion wound to the light of Christ, there are miraculous encounters with the Lord,” said Dr. Alveda King, director of African-American Outreach for Priests for Life and a spokeswoman for the Silent No More Awareness Campaign. “We hope that by the end of the Shockwaves year, we have made a start in healing the heart of our nation.”

 

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is clearly on the radar of the pro- abortion movement.  Since 2002, Silent No More has been equipping men and women across our nation to share the truth of the devastation abortion unleashed in their lives. The pro-aborts are pushing back with campaigns to “affirm” abortion and “normalize” this procedure as a safe and benign rite of passage in many women’s lives. Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion will counter these efforts with the truth.

 

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NBC News Reports on False Prenatal Tests and Abortion: The Bigger Picture of the Widespread Damage to Families

Monday, December 15th, 2014

Serpent Temptation Eve

By Janet Morana, Kevin Burke, LSW

Now the snake was the most cunning of all the wild animals that the LORD God had made. He asked the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You shall not eat from any of the trees in the garden? …God knows well that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened and you will be like gods, who know good and evil… So she took some of its fruit and ate it; and she also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.(Genesis:3, 1-6)

NBC News reports something pro life advocates have known for many years: “Prenatal Tests Have High Failure Rate, Triggering Abortions.”  The non-invasive prenatal tests (NIPTs) that have been on the market since 2011 advertise 99 percent accuracy, but the Boston Globe reports that of those results that show a genetic abnormality in the child, 50 percent are wrong and the child is completely healthy:

…these NIPTs are not perfect, according to Dr. Brian Skotko, a geneticist and co-director of the Down Syndrome Program at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston…In medicine we have no one number that reports accuracy…The 99 percent women are hearing refers to the sensitivity of the test…A test could be 99 percent sensitive and still have a 40 percent positive predictive value.”

Like in the story of the Garden of Eden and the Serpent, the increase in often unreliable pre-natal screening opens the door to two diabolic outcomes:

-                  Many healthy unborn children are being aborted.

-                  What happens to couples who experience the anxiety and trauma of pre natal screening and abort their unborn children…regardless of whether they have a disability or are perfectly healthy?   What impact does this experience have on them personally, in their marriage relationship and bonding with any future children?

Complicated Grief

[The following is an excerpt from the book Sharing the Heart of Christ.]

Every year in the United States, approximately 133,000 pregnant mothers will undergo routine pre-natal tests and receive what is called “poor pre-natal diagnosis,” or PPD.  This means that their infant is afflicted with a chromosomal abnormality or a serious defect in a vital organ.  The most difficult and complicated grief that we witness on Rachel’s Vineyard Weekends for healing after abortion, involve couples that aborted a child because testing revealed a genetic disablity.

With the increase in genetic testing and fertility treatments more couples are facing these difficult decisions.   Parents are often pressured by doctors, therapists, friends and family to “terminate” the pregnancy.  They are given the grim prospect of a child born prematurely who will die shortly after birth or suffer severe deformities and a brief life filled with suffering and pain.  Couples are vulnerable when confronted with many levels of anxiety, uncertainty and fear that are natural when trying to process such an event.

Sadly, health care professionals, friends and family often feed their worst fears.  Often with the best of intentions, they fail to offer life affirming alternatives that respect the dignity of unborn life, and in the long run are in the best interest of the mother and father, and especially their relationship.  Most couples only receive non-directive counseling, which means they are told only the various challenges and likely prognosis of the condition without offering other life-affirming resources.  This can be overwhelming and lead the parents in the aftershock of this news to see abortion as the best solution.

In one study, 80% of parents who received ‘non directive’ counseling chose to abort while 80% of parents who were provided with the option of perinatal palliative care chose to carry their child to term. [1] (Autumn 2008 Issue of Perspectives, the newsletter of the DeVeber Institute for Bioethics and Social Research.)

Tragically, more than 90 percent of these pregnancies end in abortion.  When abortion is the preferred course of “treatment” not only is the baby’s life ended, but the lives of these parents are changed forever.  Like our first parents in the Garden of Eden, assuming this power over life and death has far reaching consequences beyond the decision to abort.   The fallout from this loss places a tremendous strain on a couple as they struggle to come to terms with the shock and pain of their experience.

Research confirms that women suffer years after the procedure:

Women 2-7 years after were expected to show a significantly lower degree of traumatic experience and grief than women 14 days after termination…Contrary to hypothesis, however, the results showed no significant inter-group differences. [2](More information and research on post abortion trauma for couples who abort due to fetal disability.)

Complicated Grief

These parents suffer from a particularly complex form of grief and guilt years after the experience.  They hunger desperately for healing and peace, but struggle to come to terms with their responsibility in the death of their child and the need for repentance, reconciliation and healing.  They feel strongly that their situation is “different” from others who abort.

Couples cling desperately to the idea that they did what was best for their child, saving them from a life, however brief, of suffering and pain.  In other scenarios they must choose among healthier embryos or multiple fetuses so that the healthiest survive.  Given the medical advice and pressure from a spouse or others, they feel they did not have a real choice.  As with any abortion decision where this is any ambivalence or pressure, they are at high risk for symptoms of post abortion trauma such as anxiety, depression, sleep disturbance etc.

The husband may see the abortion as protecting his wife from the pain of giving birth to a child who would have died, or would die shortly after birth or would have been born with a physical and mental handicap that sadly is seen as a burden to his wife and family.  In their efforts to establish control and take action, men are tempted to see abortion as the best solution.

After the abortion there can be considerable anger at God, whom couples often blame for putting them in this situation.   One couple expresses this struggle:

If we were given a normal child, we would not be suffering like this.  We are different from others who have aborted because we wanted this child.  God put us in this impossible situation, forcing us to make these painful decisions.  We are left without our child, and with powerful feelings of confusion, resentment anger and grief. 

Without a healing process for this complicated grief, this pain will surely impact marital intimacy, communication and trust and the relationship of parents with their living children.

Empty Arms and Wounded Hearts

It is only when these mothers and fathers come to a clearer and honest understanding of their abortion loss that they can begin to repent, grieve and heal.  An important part of this process is facing their role in that decision to abort, and the understandable fear and weakness that tempted them to embrace this solution.  When the rationalization and seemingly wise counsel of doctors and others fades away after the abortion, a mother and father are faced with empty arms and a wounded heart.  They must face the painful realization that this decision also aborted their opportunity to hold this child and offer that child love and affection for however long the baby lived.  In the case of Down’s Syndrome and other conditions, they were given a child with special challenges to love and care for, and in their rejection of that child, something in them has also died both individually and as a couple.

The healing process can never be forced.  We must be patient, especially in the early stages of healing as the wound is very raw. There can initially be great defensiveness.  It’s important to acknowledge their pain and loss, the confusing nature of the decisions and challenges that their fertility treatment/testing and medical care presented to them.  However, at some point in the process, when they are ready and with God’s grace and much prayer, they must face the truth that their abortion decision led them to make a choice that violated their parental hearts, created to love any children they conceived regardless of the challenges.  They will need to face that the abortion was a crisis of faith, one that we all face in different times in our life where we fail to trust God, and we make decisions that violate His will for us.  We must always speak to them in love, as fellow sinners who have aborted God’s will in our lives.

Lord, Please Help Me Not to Be So Perfect

Susan attended a Rachel’s Vineyard Weekend Retreat after aborting a child diagnosed with a condition that would lead to her daughter’s death shortly after birth.   She expressed a desire to leave the retreat Saturday morning.  Susan shared:

I don’t fit in with these other women and men who freely chose abortion for “selfish” reasons.  I had no choice.  The choice I made was in the best interests of my child.

One of the priests serving on our retreat team spoke with her after breakfast on Saturday encouraging her to stay though the afternoon and then if she still felt the same way, she could leave.  Because of her trust in this priest, and the help of the Holy Spirit she decided to stay.

A major breakthrough occurred for Susan following the Living Scripture Exercise of the Woman Healed of a Hemorrhage offered on Saturday afternoon.  In this exercise, the participants have an opportunity to touch a cloth representing the cloak of Christ.   Susan approached the cloak that flowed from the base of a monstrance holding the Blessed Sacrament, and prayed, “Lord, please help me not to be so perfect, to want everything in my life to be perfect, even my child.”  She broke down in tears and continued on the weekend receiving an incredible amount of healing and peace.

At the memorial service Susan read a letter to her child apologizing for not having the courage to go through with the child’s birth and imminent death:

Our Dearest Marie,

How are you, sweetie?  How are you doing in Heaven?  Mommy and daddy really miss you.  Your brother, Vincent, asks about you all the time….Your sister, Veronica, would have loved to have a little sister like you because you and she would have been best friends…You are our little angel, our most beautiful child.

But we are both so sorry that we denied you that chance to be with our family.  You would have loved to be with us, to hear our voices, to have us touch you, hold you, and kiss you.  Even though it may only have been a short time:  months, days, or maybe just hours, deep Down I know that it would have been worth it.  We would have learned so much from you:  how to love, how to serve, how to be humble, and how to trust in our God completely! 

Dearest Marie…  Your daddy and I both need your prayers.  I know that you are in good hands, as Jesus has shown me that Mother Mary is taking care of you.  We will not worry about you, but you are forever in our hearts.  We love you so much, with all our hearts and all our souls.  We promise that we will pray to you always, tell you about all that is going on in our family.   We thank God that He has blessed us with you, that He has given us a chance to come to this retreat so that both your daddy and I would feel closer to you.  We look forward to the day that we will meet in Heaven, in the eternal home of God our Father, where we can finally hold you close and give you hugs and kisses.

Thank you for forgiving us.  You are forever our child and we are so blessed to be your parents.

Love always,

Mommy and daddy

It may take longer to make this transition but in Rachel’s Vineyard, individuals will experience some release of their pain and anguish.  They may still struggle to fully embrace repentance and healing.   The couple may remain attached to the idea that “we did what was in the best interests of our child” and may still wrestle with feelings of anger and resentment.  Offer ongoing support if appropriate and share any after care services that might assist them.  Offer prayers and encouragement and share with them that the grace of their healing experience has planted seeds that in time will bear a greater fruit.

For those offering the Rachel’s Vineyard Retreats, it is important when couples register for the weekend sharing this type of loss, that you go over the entire weekend, making them fully aware of the process.  With that understanding, we can entrust them to the God of mercy and pray for the Holy Spirit to open their hearts to his forgiveness and healing, according to His perfect will and time.

Perinatal Hospice

Those ministering to engaged or married couples are in an excellent position to offer alternatives to abortion when a couple receives the painful news there is a problem with their pregnancy.  The type of counseling couples receive is critical to the decision to abort or give birth to a disabled child.

Fortunately there is a growing movement to provide Perinatal Hospice that supports couples who journey through the difficult birth, death and funeral of their child.  [Be sure to visit Perinatal Hospice and the excellent FAQ section of their website.] With encouragement and education they help provide the vital healing experience of embracing their child with love for as long as the baby lives. Though deeply painful, it gives parents and families the opportunity to celebrate the child’s life and to grieve this loss in a healthy way.   The couple and their family experience the natural process of grief.  With the support team of doctors, nurses, chaplains and social workers they can find healing and meaning in their suffering and loss.  Abortion robs parents of this opportunity.  While we can struggle to understand the meaning of suffering and death, especially of an infant, God’s grace and blessing abounds when life is embraced, loved and released with dignity, instead of abortion.

For those with a Downs syndrome diagnosis we must provide opportunities for parents to learn of the blessings as well as the real challenges that these children will present, to counter the negative picture presented by proponents of abortion.  It may be beneficial to have some contacts of parents who have a Downs Syndrome child who would be willing to speak to those faced with a Down Syndrome diagnosis.  Once parents get over the initial shock and fear of the unknown, their lives are filled with peace and as one mother told us, “I live with pure joy every day.  I’m learning about unconditional love from my son.”

Resources:

Here’s a Great article on a life affirming story of a mother with a disabled unborn child that chose life.

Prenatal Partners for Life  If you have come to this site because you or someone you know has received an adverse or negative prenatal diagnosis, you have come to the right place. We are parents who have gone through similar circumstances and we want to offer support. We are here to help you. You are not alone!

www.perinatalhospice.org

National Association for Down Syndrome

National Down Syndrome Congress

The DeVeber Institute for Bioethics and Social Research

 

 

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Cecile Richards: One thing you can’t hide is when you’re crippled inside

Thursday, December 11th, 2014

 

      Steinam            Cecile Richards                                      

This post was co-authored by Kevin Burke, LSW, co-founder of Rachel’s Vineyard, and Janet Morana.

 

…You can hide your face behind a smile…

You can live a lie until you die

 But one thing you can’t hide – is when you’re crippled inside.

- John Lennon, Crippled Inside

Planned Parenthood President Cecile Richards disclosed in Elle in October that she  had an abortion:

I had an abortion. It was the right decision for me and my husband, and it wasn’t a difficult decision. Before becoming president of Planned Parenthood eight years ago, I hadn’t really talked about it beyond family and close friends. But I’m here to say, when politicians argue and shout about abortion, they’re talking about me—and millions of other women around the country.

It is not an accident that some of the founding members of pro abortion feminism and abortion rights movements such as Kate Michelman (N.O.W.), Gloria Steinem and others are women with abortions in their history.  Reacting to the success of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign in presenting the truth of abortion’s devastation in women’s lives, Richard’s recent public testimony is part of an overall strategy by the pro abortion movement to normalize abortion.  Their strategy is to affirm this most commonly performed medical procedure as a benign rite of passage for many women.

There are powerful post-abortion forces that lead some women to embrace their “choice” and become proponents of abortion rights.

What is really going on here?  First we need to start with basic biology.

The Body Doesn’t Lie

When a woman becomes pregnant, everything in her body is gearing up to welcome, protect and nurture the unborn child.  The female body is not ambivalent or fiercely ideological about the abortion issue – when conception occurs the female body is never asking:

 Is this really a good time for me to welcome this child into the world?

This guys already squirming and I am going to be stuck with this baby.  I need to abort.

I want to finish college first.

I was date raped and traumatized…I can’t have this baby.

Once the child is conceived and if it continues to naturally develop a host of complex, mysterious and very natural transformations begin…all very much designed to accept, protect and nurture this little life – regardless of the circumstances.

If you can imagine the body speaking after the abortion procedure, it would cry out:

What have you done to me, why did you invade my body and force opens my cervix and destroyed this child I was nurturing and protecting…and abruptly shut down the process of breast growth (which increases vulnerability to breast cancer)?  Why did you allow this violent abusive act? 

Even though there may be conscious assent to the procedure, abortion is undeniably a shock to a woman’s reproductive system and body.  On a physical and emotional level, Abortion is experienced as an unnatural and violent act…truly a form of abuse.

But as human persons we aren’t just bodies detached from thoughts and feelings… our emotions, our spirit and our minds are interwoven into our being.

The Power of Denial

Now the mind is also a powerful part of the human person.  In order for us to keep functioning under great stress or danger, we can for a time shut down our feelings, detach from them and repress this dark material deep into the unconscious and with the release of adrenaline and endorphins keep going.

Psychological survival after participating in the death of an unborn baby requires us to rationalize that we made the right decision…for ourselves and the child.  Pro abortion affirmation campaigns, and friends and family often confirm this denial and the dismissal of any feelings of regret or pain with comments such as:

Now you can get on with your life- one day you can welcome a baby into this world when you are in a better place in your life…a time that is best for you and your family.

Some women and many men have the capacity to detach from, repress and deny this painful abortion violation and on the surface function quite well.  They often become worhaholics or develop other addictive behaviors and tend to have problems in their marriage and family relationships as they expend considerable emotional energy suppressing the natural complicated grief and loss that the body, mind and soul experience after abortion.

Agents of Death – Re Enacting Complicated Abortion Grief

Some further solidify this abortion denial by become pro abortion activists and even abortion center employees/volunteers.  Cecile Richards falls into this category.  Richards, Steinem, Michelman and many other activists can for many years normalize their trauma and deny the complicated grief of their losses by helping others have abortions.

They are in a very real sense re-enacting their abortion trauma in the lives of other women becoming active agents in perpetuating the cycles of trauma and death.   They also project their complicated grief, anger and pain onto those dangerous anti-choice advocates who hate women and want to control their bodies and lives.

But this denial and repression comes at a very high price over time.  It establishes a very powerful psychological division within the mother but also the father as well.

God shares his eternal nature with his created creatures.

God shares his image and likeness with us…it is interwoven into our humanity, and helps define our unique nature among the other mammals. We, his children, are destined for eternal life with our Eternal Father.

We share in the capacity to co-create with God in bringing new souls, new life into this world.   Just as the body is geared up to nurture and protect the child, so as the child develops in the womb our natural vocation as parents is to welcome this new life, this new soul into the world.

We know that many pregnancy situations are filled with anxiety, stress, and various pressures.  But as the baby develops in its mother’s womb, there is a deeper internal assent and acceptance of the pregnancy within the body, heart and soul of the mother well before the conscious decision to abort.

When we participate in the death of an unborn child we are aborting the birth of that unique person and soul into the world.  We violate something fundamental to our vocation as creatures of the Eternal Father, as co creators of life…we rupture our relationship with the Creator.  This is often an unconscious rupture though some are acutely aware at the time of the abortion of this violation.  It is very deep and desperately cries out for reconciliation and healing.

Crippled Inside

Without an integrated emotional and spiritual healing of an abortion loss you will never be a whole integrated person..as Catholic Evangelist Matthew Kelly is fond of saying- the best version of yourself.  You may be a decent, caring, loving person with many wonderful gifts and qualities…but you will remain in the recesses of your heart and soul – deeply wounded.

Worse, if your form of compensation and denial is to promote abortion rights, like Cecile Richards you are not only ignoring your own pain… you are inflicting untold damage on millions of unborn children and their families.

 -  Janet Morana and Kevin Burke, LSW

 

 

 

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Assault by emergency contraception

Friday, December 5th, 2014
Dr. Thomas A. Pfeiffer

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It seems like just about every day there is another news story involving a pregnant woman and a violent man who doesn’t want to be a father. Earlier this week, the news was the 25-years-to life-sentence given to a 22-year-old man who suffocated, burned and then dumped the body of his 14-year-old girlfriend after she told him she was pregnant and refused to abort the child.

Today’s story is about a 44-year-old anesthesiologist in upstate New York who allegedly choked a woman who told him she was pregnant and forced her to swallow what news outlets are reporting variously as “an abortion pill” or Plan B.

The woman was treated and released from a hospital, but the fate of her unborn child is still not known. One of the reporters covering the story said she has repeatedly asked if the baby is alive, but the Ulster County Sheriff’s Office is not answering.

I pray the baby is alive. But if the baby has died, all those who insist emergency contraception is not abortifacient will finally have to face reality.

From a pro-life perspective – and from a purely scientific perspective, before politics got involved – contraception, both emergency and otherwise, is abortifacient by its nature. Pregnancy begins when the egg is fertilized, which is basic biology, but in 1965, in order to make the new birth control Pill more palatable to the public, the definition of when a woman was considered pregnant was changed. Since then, pregnancy is officially considered to begin at implantation. (Not all doctors agree with this new measurement).

This particular case in Ulster County could finally blow the lid off the deception surrounding emergency contraception. If an implanted embryo died post-implantation, there is no more arguing about Plan B’s abortifacient nature.

If the baby has died, it also opens up a whole new can of worms for Obamacare. The Hyde Amendment prohibits federal funds from being used to pay for abortion. But the Affordable Care Act provides federal subsidies for millions of people who are now buying insurance on the national exchange, and, thanks to the HHS mandate that insurance includes free contraception and emergency contraception for everyone (with some faith-based exceptions). If emergency contraception killed this baby, then federal funds are most definitely being used to fund abortion.

This baby’s death would certainly help pro-lifers get our point across about the true nature of emergency contraception and the illegal use of federal funds to pay for abortion. But I pray the baby is alive, because every life matters.

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