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Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion

Tuesday, December 30th, 2014

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WASHINGTON, D.C. — The year 2014 saw the first “abortion rom-com” in theaters, heard the head of Planned Parenthood express the goal of making pro-life political candidates “unacceptable,” and endured a relentless assault by an anti-life movement that seeks to recast abortion as a social good.

 

Abortion is not a social good, and in 2015, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign will demonstrate that through a new project called Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion. The aim of Shockwaves is to reach out to those impacted by the loss of a child through abortion: Parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, abortion clinic workers and even the abortionists themselves.

 

The project will be announced at a press conference Thursday, Jan. 8 at 1 p.m. in the Murrow Room at the National Press Club, 529 14th St. NW. The official launch for Shockwaves will be at the annual Silent No More gathering in front of the U.S. Supreme Court building during the March for Life on Jan. 22.

 

The Supreme Court decision to legalize abortion was like a series of powerful nuclear devices detonated in January 1973 in Washington, D.C. The damage done by an explosion is not only in the initial impact, but in the invisible shockwaves that ripple out from the epicenter. We often fail to see the radioactive fallout from 55 million abortions but the new initiative aims to make Americans aware of the powerful and destructive shockwaves that have wounded our nation in ways that we are only beginning to fully understand. 

 

 

“Each individual abortion procedure is an explosive event in the lives of the mother and father and those closely connected to that decision,” said Father Frank Pavone, National Director of Priests for Life and Pastoral Director for Silent No More. “The shockwaves not only deeply touch the mother and father but all those who are part of abortion decisions and procedures.  They extend out into the lives that they will touch as their unresolved  grief and loss impact their future relationships, their marriage and family lives. This can and does reach deeply into our society — our schools, our health care and legal systems, our economy and our communities.”

 

Every month throughout 2015, Shockwaves will reach out to a group that has been directly impacted by abortion loss, with helpful information, resources, and referrals to abortion-recovery programs.

 

January will focus on “Healing through the Church.”  February will recognize Black History Month to offer “Healing the Black Family.” March will put the focus on grandparents, while April will take a look at how the shockwaves have impacted the siblings. Mother’s Day in May and Father’s Day in June provide opportunities to focus on those at the epicenter, the parents who lose children to abortion.

 

“The new aim of the pro-choice movement is to convince women and men that abortion is the very best thing they can do for themselves and their future,” said Georgette Forney, President of Anglicans for Life and co-founder of Silent No More. “But I can tell you from experience that the abortion I had as a teenager was not the best thing I could have done for myself. It was the worst, and it impacted my parents, my future husband and our daughter.”

Janet Morana, Executive Director of Priests for Life and co-founder of Silent No More, was unaware for years that she had lost a grandchild to abortion.

 

“When I look at my two precious grandchildren now, I often think of their cousin who’s missing,” she said. “It’s heartbreaking to think of what my family lost, and what my daughter went through. The shockwaves of that abortion have reverberated throughout my family, and there are families like mine all over our wounded nation.”

 

The theme for July will be “Healing the Survivors and Friends,” followed by “Healing the Abortion Providers” in August. Family will be the theme for September, with a focus on Hispanic families in October.

 

“Healing Pro-Lifers” will be the theme for November.

 

“Those who stand outside abortion clinics, on the front lines of this battle, also need healing,” said Kevin Burke, LSW, co-founder of Rachel’s Vineyard and head of Silent No More’s Fatherhood Forever initiative. “So do those who work in pregnancy resource centers, and others who counsel abortion-vulnerable women. Every woman who chooses abortion represents a deep and personal loss to these people who are so committed to life. They feel the shockwaves most acutely.”

 

December will be devoted to seeking healing through Jesus Christ.

 

“When a spiritual and emotional healing program safely opens the abortion wound to the light of Christ, there are miraculous encounters with the Lord,” said Dr. Alveda King, director of African-American Outreach for Priests for Life and a spokeswoman for the Silent No More Awareness Campaign. “We hope that by the end of the Shockwaves year, we have made a start in healing the heart of our nation.”

 

The Silent No More Awareness Campaign is clearly on the radar of the pro- abortion movement.  Since 2002, Silent No More has been equipping men and women across our nation to share the truth of the devastation abortion unleashed in their lives. The pro-aborts are pushing back with campaigns to “affirm” abortion and “normalize” this procedure as a safe and benign rite of passage in many women’s lives. Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion will counter these efforts with the truth.

 

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Post-abortive dad turns to an advice columnist for help

Wednesday, December 4th, 2013

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The truth about the way abortion affects men comes to the surface in places you might not expect.

The rapper Flypside with his haunting video “Happy Birthday,” tells the truth about abortion loss from the perspective of a man wondering what his 4-year-old would be like.

Steven Tyler’s lament, “Jesus, what have I done,” after he forced his teenage girlfriend to abort their child shows that he realized, even if too late, that he had sanctioned the murder of his own son, and it hurt.

Now even advice columnists are hearing from men who regret their roles in an abortion, even if they don’t find out about it until years later.

An advice column in The Sentinel, in Stokes, England, yesterday ran a letter from a man who found out, years after the fact, that a woman with whom he had a casual, but physical, relationship ended up leaving school suddenly because she became pregnant, and had an abortion. His letter is filled with raw, honest, emotion. It tells the truth about how so many people feel after choosing abortion.
He wrote:

“Throughout university I was in a relationship with a girl who loved me more than I did her and I cheated on her and often stood her up. Just before our finals she left suddenly and seemed to disappear. Fifteen years on she contacted me through Facebook and suggested we meet. She eventually told me why she left, that she was pregnant with our child, knew I wouldn’t support her, had an abortion and became very depressed and attempted suicide before getting her life back on track. She finished her degree, has a good job and is married and has one child and she says she is very happy. I was shocked that she had gone through all of that, on her own and largely because of me. I feel so guilty that I treated her so unkindly. Since she told me I have been off sick from work and my friends are worried about me, but I’m too ashamed to tell them what is going on.”

The honesty in this letter almost hurts. He didn’t love her. He cheated on her. And yet he continued to have sex with her, knowing her feelings were stronger and deeper.

The advice columnist first focuses on the fact that the woman might be at fault for having told him after so much time had elapsed, but eventually addresses the real issue, that his feelings are pent up with remorse and regret over his lost child.

The columnist’s reply:

“I would suggest you see your GP if you haven’t already, just to get some support. I feel torn in your case. This, on the one hand, smacks of your ex feeling the need to dump this on you. However, we often do not reflect on how we treat others and hearing what she had to say has led you to look at your past behaviour. That’s no bad thing, providing we learn from our mistakes. I am glad to hear that you have changed and you find that young man unrecognisable. I hope you can forgive yourself now and move on from this, as you cannot change what is done. Counselling would help you to come to terms with this and deal with the loss of your child.”

In their stepped-up effort to eliminate the “stigma” of abortion, pro-aborts are urging women to tell their abortion stories, and, like the women and men of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign who have been sharing the pain of their abortions for more than 10 years, the stories, more often than not, include feelings of regret and loss. Pro-aborts listen to these stories and say, “abortion has to remain legal anyway, no matter how much pain it causes.” We hear the stories and we know that we have to work harder to ensure the day will come when no one will make that choice, because the pain is often too much to bear.

Please join me in calling for an end to abortion by pulling this harmful product, this violence masquerading as choice, off the market. Go to www.recallabortion.com and sign the petition.

If you are a man hurting from an abortion loss, please go to Silent No More and click on the photo “Men and Abortion.”

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